Top Worst Texts To Get From A Guy

I have a lot of random thoughts that run through my head. Today's was, wow.... I really hate when a guy texts me that.

So here is a list of the TOP WORST texts a guy can send you and what they generally mean....

- > Cool--- I didn't really read your text, I just responded to be nice

-> Nice--- Um... same thing as when I text you cool, I just decided to mix it up a little

-> Right On--- You said something semi-interesting to me, So I'm going to respond semi-interestingly

-> HAHA--- Please stop texting me

-> Sweet--- This is Cool and Nice all over again... Its part of my "I dont want to talk to you" terminology. (I feel a pattern going on here)

-> *He doesn't respond to your texts at all*- NOT INTERESTED 

-> :) --- I'm smiling at you because I know that the words cool, nice, right on, haha, and sweet are too overplayed. Oh.... andddddd I'm not interested in what you have to say.

Generally.... if a guy is sending you 1 word message texts to answer your questions or to respond to your texts, he is NOT really interested in talking to you! Sometimes I get it..... your busy right? So SOMETIMES its okay to send a one word text, totally makes sense. But 5 times in a row? Or how about 3 days in a row? Eh... face it ladies, He is just NOT into you! Plus, ladies, if he was interested in you, he would call right? :)

Another thing that bothers me, "I'm not like every other guy!" Holy RED FLAG right there! I hate to say this, but every guy is just like the other guy. Because generally all the guys us ladies like to date are..... well....similar.... its our taste! So just be warned, when you are into a guy thats everything you want, he will probably be just like the last guy.... that was everything you wanted. But when the guy needs to point  out to you that he is not "just like the last guy"..... you know you are just waiting for that moment when you can say, "you are JUST like every other guy!!!"

23???? Whaaaaat!?! Dating??? Errrrr.......?

Its true! I just turned 23! Thank you everyone for all the birthday wishes! I feel like 23 is getting old, yet, when I write it down it looks so young!! Which.... its true! 23 is young, but I feel like now I have some age under my belt :) some good experiences.... and ooohhh do I have experiences!


      Yesterday was a mmmmmppphhh day. Yes, an mmmmmpppphhhh day. What's that? Its a day where you feel like mmmmmmppphhh. I was sitting around thinking about why I felt this way and just had a gazzilion thoughts running through my head and had to write them down.


     It has honestly been a few interesting weeks. A lot of ups and downs, but the one thing I have really been thinking about is dating... there! I said it! Now everyone gets to know a little about my dating life.... or lack of.... anyway.... I had one of those awkward moments where a guy is totally into you and then, he finds out you have a bouncing toddler. That is one of the HARDEST things about being a single mom, if not THE hardest thing. The problem I have, and I HAVE come to realize this, I actually enjoy being single. Well, not really, everyone wants to have someone there to do fun things with, I just realize that I'm a pretty independent woman.
    I have had to learn how to provide for my family by myself and I think I do a pretty darn good job! I'm almost done with school, the ONLY debt I have is student loans and its small, I have no credit cards, no car payment, I do pretty well! My little guy has even had a college/mission fund since the month he was born.
    Here is where I think the problem with dating occurs..... since I have become so independent I don't get attached. I get over guys REALLY fast! Not that I go out with them and then never go out with them again because I'm a user (hehe). But its when a guy doesn't call, or stops texting, or doesn't follow through with date plans you made..... it bothers me for 1 night, then I'm over it! What is wrong with me!?!?! HAHA! No really.... what IS wrong with me? I have come to the conclusion I will die an old hag... with lots and lots of cats, and I dont even like cats! haha Ok... I'm kidding.
       I believe.... not getting attached or not feeling bad when a guy completely ignores you, is both a blessing and a curse. Last night when I was sitting around thinking about this I realized something very important sitting next to my bed.
5 things
1- The book, "The Miracle of Forgiveness"
on top of that book was
2- My patriarchal blessing... on top of that
3- My temple recommend
and  on top of that
4- My tithing
sitting next to that pile
5- My scriptures- which I read EVERY night! I havent misses a SINGLE day in 2 years!
These 5 items were a Testament to me that Heavenly Father has a plan for me. Even if that plan involves a guy finding out you have a son and then completely ignoring you. There is a reason for it!
I have an interesting story I would like to share hoping and praying that we can all learn a valuable lesson from it.
      Years ago, before I had my son, I was writing a FRIEND on his mission. It was someone I met right before they went into the MTC and we wrote all the time.... until..... I got caught up in the college life. After that it was just an occasional letter. I believed however, that we were good friends and could talk about ANYTHING! When I found out I was expecting, I didnt tell him because I didnt think that was something he should worry about. Instead I waited until he got home. After he found out I had a son, I never heard from him again. A brand new returned missionary friend, judged me more harshly than anyone I can think of. A servant of the lord who taught repentance and forgiveness everyday of their lives for 2 years, comes home, and judges me for something I had already reconciled.
Here is my plea with that story... please please, those of you who are returned missionaries, AND EVERYONE..... remember what you taught/teach and stood and should still stand for. That doesnt mean you should date and marry a girl with a child, that just simply means, don't look the other way. Love her as a friend for her mistakes. That should be the simplest thing a person can do and yet, for some reason it seems to be the hardest. Because of my deep experiences I am closer to my Heavenly Father than I ever thought possible and if I could wrap my arms around every girl who has crappy times like me I would!!!!!!!!! I have a special love in my heart for those girls who struggle with similar challenges to mine. Whether they are as extreme as mine or not! I hope and pray deeply that as Members of the church we can learn to love everyone, mistakes and all!